Chastity
Premarital Sex and Marriage
CLAIM: You need to sleep together before you get married to ensure you’re sexually compatible. REBUTTAL: The claim raises several questions. Does there need to be sexual compatibility to have a marriage? What happens if age or malady lessens the sexual compatibility...
Premarital Sex and Marriage
CLAIM: You need to sleep together before you get married to ensure you’re sexually compatible. REBUTTAL: The claim raises several questions. Does there need to be sexual compatibility to have a marriage? What happens if age or malady lessens the sexual compatibility...
Shepherding Your Teens to Adulthood
Mark Clifford Brunner Teen dating? Perhaps, it's time to assign these words to the dustbin of outmoded phrases. At least, if most 15 year-olds had their way, they would be happy never to hear these words again. We "get together" or "hang out." "Dating? What does that...
Would You Like to Go to a Movie?
Rev. Robert Fleischmann, National Director, Christian Life Resources Solomon Wrote (Ecclesiastes 1:9): "What has been will be again, what has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun." I think of this passage often as I counsel families facing...
Sharing the Facts of Life
Pastor James A. Aderman I trusted him when he told me, "I love you." He trusted me when I said the same. We trusted our emotions when they said, "It's OK. Show each other how much you care." When our relationship died, so did part of me. Even now as I relive the...
Saying ‘Yes’ to Sex
Pastor Rolfe Westendorf Society has always had trouble with the subject of sex. Some societies like the Victorian have hidden the topic in a closet as if it did not exist. Sex went on as usual, including its rankest forms of abuse, but it was never mentioned in polite...
Saved Sex Is the Only Safe Sex
Ryan MacPherson As a teenager, I hear the media telling my peers and me about sex more than any other topic. I have to ask myself two questions: What are they telling us? And, are we listening? Overwhelmingly, they are telling us about “safe sex.” And it seems we are...
Decent Sex [5-Part Series]
Part 1: Man's Word on Sex The words people use to describe sex and sexual activity already betray much about the way they feel. On the one hand are words that reveal ignorance, confusion and hurt. We hear words like "dirty," "filthy," "disgusting," "sick," and the...
Reserving Sex for Marriage
Pastor Fredric Piepenbrink God’s precious gift of sex is only for those who publicly promise faithfulness to one another for life. Since the sexual revolution of the 1960s, the idea of reserving sexual relations for married couples has become utterly old-fashioned....
Marriage and Family Under God
Pastor Lyle J. Lindloff Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ (Ephesians 5:21). Which key unlocks the door? To find the key that unlocks the door of Ephesians 5:21 we must go to the beginning of the chapter. The opening verse reads, "Be imitators of God."...
Helping Your Teen Say No to Sex
Josh D. McDowell Dear Mr. McDowell, Having premarital sex was the most horrifying experience of my life. It wasn't at all the emotionally satisfying experience the world deceived me into believing. I felt as lf my insides were being exposed and my heart left...
Q&A on Abstinence/Teaching Teens about Birth Control
QUESTION: I’ve heard that teen pregnancy rates have increased. Is it time to teach our kids about birth control? ANSWER: The teen birth rate has been on a steep decline since the early 1990s. Yet, teaching about birth control is not the solution. Abstinence is still...
Youth Corner: Dating
Cindy Ewings Dating. The words and images rush through everyone's heads. The first date. The movie that you saw, and the restaurant that you went to together. The jokes that you shared and the special moments that you spent together. Most dates bring back happy...
The Truth About Sex Before Marriage
What Is the Purpose of a Sexual Relationship? Companionship Genesis 2:18 - ”The LORD God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’ ” Children Genesis 1:28 - "God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in...
Talking to Your Kids About Chastity
These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." (Deuteronomy 6:6,7) Few parents find it comfortable to...
Sex Is Like Eating Popcorn
I Am Caught! Did you ever notice that a bowl of popcorn rarely sits half empty? Once you start eating it you don’t stop until it’s gone. Someone once said that having sex is like eating popcorn. Once you have become sexually active you can’t stop – or can you? Don’t...
Chastity’s Contagious
Rev. Thomas H. Trapp Chastity's contagious. Think of two people on a date. One insists on chastity; the other's going to practice it too. It's contagious! It's also 100 percent safe (as well as God-pleasing). But not everyone practices chastity. The result of unchaste...
Q&A on Teens and Chastity
QUESTION: My two children are approaching their teen years. I want to talk with them about chastity, but I made some mistakes when I was their age. Am I being hypocritical if I tell them to wait until marriage to enjoy sexual intimacy? ANSWER: All have sinned and...
