Who Needs the Counseling Here?

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Sometimes It Is Not Just the Pregnant Woman

Many of the women who come to the Pregnancy Care Center need a lot of sound Christian help. But sometimes they bring with them someone who is in much greater need of help than they are. Sometimes it is a husband, boyfriend or a parent.

Counseling the Husband

Sam and Diane are both about 30-years-old, and they have two pre-school children. Their marriage had been rocky. Diane had been hospitalized for a short time for a nervous condition. About three months previously they had been separated. Now Diane is sure she is about three months pregnant.

Sam wanted Diane to have an abortion as a condition for him to come back home. He said, “That baby can’t be mine! I will not raise another man’s child!”

Diane said that she wanted her husband, the father of her two girls, back in the home. All three of them needed him. But in no way was she going to have an abortion.

The counselor was challenged. With prayer, she sought an answer. She remembered that Sam was a Roman Catholic by background. She asked, “Are you willing to be forgiving? Jesus forgave the thief on the cross.”

Sam admitted that Jesus had forgiven the thief, but “that was different. The thief had repented while my wife claims she has always been faithful to me.”

The counselor then turned to the Christmas story. “Do you know the story of Joseph and Mary and the baby Jesus? Mary was a virgin and yet she was pregnant. God asked Joseph to take the boy Jesus and to raise him as his own child. Jesus was not the son of Joseph, but he willingly served as his father. He supported him, fathered him and thus served God and man.”

Sam’s attitude changed dramatically. “You’re right,” he said, “I just had to hear it.”

Sam agreed to go back into the home and an appointment was arranged with a pro-life doctor. Diane turned out to be over four months pregnant. Now Sam joins her in looking forward to their Christmas baby, a child that is his to love, father and raise.

Counseling the Boyfriend

John, Patti and Linda arrived at the Center one morning at about the same time. Patti came to the desk saying that she thought she might be pregnant and that she needed information regarding abortion or possible alternatives. As Patti was filling out the information card, the counselor turned to John and Linda and asked if they were with Patti. Linda said that she was a friend, too. The counselor asked John, “If Patti is pregnant, are you the father?”

John jumped up from his seat and charged towards the counselor shouting, “NO, NO, I admit nothing. I’m not going to admit to anything!”

When John had calmed down the counselor invited all three of them into one of the private counseling rooms to view a special visual presentation informing them fully on exactly what abortion is and how it is performed.

When the counselor returned following the presentation, John was very agitated. He almost screamed at the counselor, “How can anyone show us such things. It is in very bad taste.”

At this point, the counselor was wondering what would come next. As she talked to the three of them, she prayed that God would give her the proper words to use, the right things to say.

The counselor explained that most people have no concept of what abortion is or what is involved. When going to abortion clinics, they are not told about the baby they carry, they are not told about procedures and they are not told about the risks to the life or future health of the mother.

“We show the truth,” she told them. “We want people to know. A good doctor, one who is faithful to his oath, will tell his patient before surgery what he is going to do and what the hoped-for improvement is as well and the dangers. Abortion doctors can’t tell their patients such things or they would lose almost all of their patients. We care and we want to help.”

John continued his attacks. He asked if the counselor was a Christian and then continued, “How can the church be against abortion? Isn’t death inevitable?”

The counselor explained to John that the taking of human life in abortion is a form of murder. She asked, “If God is the one who determines when life ends, aren’t you playing God by ending this life now by an act of your will?”

Turning to Patti, the counselor asked, “What are your feelings?”

Patti was excited. “I am very happy. I am starting to love the baby already.”

Sensing a changing attitude in John, the counselor asked, “What are your feelings, now?”

John finally admitted that he was the baby’s father and that he loved Patti very much. He said that he wanted to get married to her so perhaps they should be getting along with their plans. John then added something that made the counselor happy. “I have friends who put out our college newspaper. I am going to talk to them about putting an ad for your Hotline and for the Center in the paper as a public service. Others really need to know about abortion and get good counseling.”

Counseling a Parent

Jennifer came to the Center with her mother. Jenny was 17, pregnant and very much in love with her boyfriend. Jenny was also pro-life.

In contrast to Jenny, her mother, recently divorced, hated Jenny’s boyfriend stating bluntly, “If that *%#&#%&! ever comes around again I’ll kill him.” She was also insistent that Jennifer have an abortion.

Their counselor at the Center listened carefully to the two women and then gave them an opportunity to see a special presentation detailing all the latest information on abortion.

By the time the counseling session was over, the mother had relented a little. She finally agreed not to press for an abortion.

Through more counseling, the mother finally gave her consent to the marriage which took place last June. By mid-July, the mother had accepted the marriage.

When contacted recently, Jennifer told us that they are all “very happy” and looking forward to the birth of their child (and grandchild) just in time for Christmas.

We have been amazed at the way in which the Lord has blessed our volunteer counselors with wisdom and insight. So often he has given them just the right words. We know he hears our prayers and answers them. That’s why we ask you each day to pray for the counselors and their work.

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