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Relationships and “I Believe”
CLAIM: I believe that a loving, committed relationship—regardless of whether it fits the traditional mold of a man and a woman—can be just as healthy and pleasing to God as any traditional family. REBUTTAL: On the surface, it is difficult to dispute this claim. After...
Relationships Require Work
CLAIM: A good marriage should be easy. If I must work so hard to be happy, I’d rather be alone. REBUTTAL: This claim is short and to the point. I am going to venture a guess that the problem here is a flawed understanding of happiness and how we achieve it. So, let’s...
Learning from Marriage Mistakes
CLAIM: My parents got divorced, and I had to suffer through their terrible marriage my entire childhood. Why would I put myself in that situation? REBUTTAL: Witnessing or experiencing something terrible tends to make us very anecdotal. That can lead us to greatly...
Divorce Reshapes, But Does Not Erase, Marriage
CLAIM: Half of all marriages end in divorce. If marriage worked, that wouldn’t be happening. REBUTTAL: Let’s first dispense with the terrible logic of this claim. If we approached everything in life this way, imagine how silly it would be: Approximately half of all...
Beyond “The One”: A Christian Reflection on Love, Marriage, and Polygamy
CLAIM: Humans aren’t naturally built for monogamy, and the idea of finding “the one” is just a myth. In a lifetime, men may end up having multiple wives. Even in the Bible, we see that men had multiple wives and sexual partners, sometimes at the same time. REBUTTAL:...
Is a License Necessary to be Married
CLAIM: We don't need a legal document or government involvement to be truly committed to one another. Why let the state define what our relationships should look like? REBUTTAL: Correct, we don’t need a legal document or government involvement to be truly committed to...
Church Should Advocate for Childless Marriages
CLAIM: I value marriage and the happiness it brings. That being said, I wish the church spoke more positively about choosing not to have children, especially given today’s uncertainties and the harm caused when unwanted children face neglect or resentment. REBUTTAL: I...
Premarital Sex and Marriage
CLAIM: You need to sleep together before you get married to ensure you’re sexually compatible. REBUTTAL: The claim raises several questions. Does there need to be sexual compatibility to have a marriage? What happens if age or malady lessens the sexual compatibility...
Christian Disparity in Marriage
CLAIM: All the men I’ve dated were Christians and either physically abused me or cheated on me. My ex-husband even had our marriage annulled by the Catholic Church so he could marry his mistress…how is this fair for people who genuinely love God, but others seem to...
Dating Outside of the Faith
CLAIM: I’m Christian and I don’t see the big deal of dating outside of my faith. Christians marry non-Christians all the time. You don’t have to fight about it. REBUTTAL: The claimant raises four points for us to consider: How Christians choose whom to date or marry,...
Has Marriage Become Obsolete?
CLAIM: Marriage isn’t necessary these days. It’s just a piece of paper. Why involve the government? REBUTTAL: The claimant nicely broke the matter down into three points, so let’s use them: Marriage isn’t necessary these days. The statement suggests that at one time,...
Pressed into Marriage
CLAIM: My hobbies and friends fulfil me, but I get a lot of pressure from my parents to get married. I just don’t feel the need. Why should I get married? REBUTTAL: You don’t have to get married, but before you stake your future on hobbies and friends, there are some...
Priorities Before Marriage and Children
CLAIM: I want to focus on my career and achieve financial stability. I don’t need to rush getting married or having kids. REBUTTAL: It is good to have priorities. It is better to have properly calibrated priorities. Calibrating priorities can be challenging and...
Science and the Gender Spectrum
CLAIM: I feel trapped in a body of the wrong sex. If I were made this way, shouldn’t I be accepted for that reality? REBUTTAL: Navigating gender issues involves three disciplines: biology, psychology, and sociology. “Biology” refers not only to the physical traits...
Challenging Gender Ideology Does Not Disappoint Jesus
CLAIM: Really? Why not love everyone and let God deal with them in the end? Jesus would be so disappointed. REBUTTAL: Discussions about gender roles are often far more ideological than theological, even when attempts are made to spiritualize an unsupportable position....
Who Are We to Judge
CLAIM: Jesus loved and accepted everybody. Who are we to judge or tell anybody what they can or cannot do? REBUTTAL: Especially evident in the “Christian” arguments for universal and undefined gender perspectives is that the “Christian faith” and the “Christian...
Freedom to be Authentic
CLAIM: The freedom to explore one’s identity—whether transgender or not—is a fundamental right that fosters personal growth and self-discovery. Allowing individuals the space to determine who they are, what they value, and who they want to become is not only...
Religious Beliefs vs Greatness Through Love
CLAIM: Embrace your religious and spiritual beliefs while understanding that not everyone shares the same views, and that’s perfectly okay. It’s important to love and respect others for who they are in this world and in this moment, without trying to impose your...
None of My Business
CLAIM: I simply don’t care what someone does with THEIR body. It’s none of my business. What I care about is how they treat others. REBUTTAL: The argument advocating for the right to self-identify with a chosen gender rather than the one you were born with is...
Extending Life or Prolonging Death
CLAIM: Assisted suicide should be considered an option when people cannot agree on whether treatment extends life or prolongs the dying process. REBUTTAL: Nothing gets us lost in the part like the ability to make decisions. We quickly presume to be masters of our...
Assisted Suicide as a Practical Issue
CLAIM: Elderly people who are terminally ill have a duty to die and get out of the way. Like leaves which fall off a tree forming the humus in which other plants can grow, we've got a duty to die and get out of the way with all our machines and artificial hearts, so...
Assisted Suicide Can Be Safe
CLAIM: I agree that it is murder if the person doesn't consent to assistance in dying. Signing legal papers to be assisted in suicide is entirely legal in more and more places. Those people also have to be mentally evaluated several times and have to say yes several...
Spectator Selfishness
CLAIM: I feel whatever the patient wants is best. Don’t be selfish and want them around for your sake. REBUTTAL: A few important points need to be understood with this claim or accusation: Sometimes It’s True A lifetime of relationships forms strong emotional bonds....
A Matter of Choice vs. Opinion
CLAIM: If you choose to die in excruciating pain, that's absolutely up to you. If you'd prefer to watch your loved ones die in excruciating pain, again, that's for you and your conscience. What I, or anyone else, chooses to do isn't your decision. But it is also the...
The Role of Suffering
CLAIM: The purpose of pain (suffering) is to tell you something is wrong. When possible, we fix the problem, and life goes on. When we cannot fix the problem, the merciful thing is to permit assisted suicide because suffering is only making life miserable. REBUTTAL:...
Quality of Life and the Argument for Assisted Suicide
CLAIM: Assistance in dying is a merciful way for people to hold on to dignity as they see their quality of life disappear. REBUTTAL: “If you are the Son of God,” he [Satan to Jesus] said, “throw yourself down. For it is written…” (Matthew 4:6) I have been involved...
Experience and Passing Judgment
CLAIM: People who have not personally faced terminal illness or severe suffering should not pass judgment on those who consider assisted suicide. REBUTTAL: Claims of absolute autonomy always need greater scrutiny. We value experience. We value the right to do our own...
We Euthanize Animals
CLAIM: While we mercifully euthanize pets to end their suffering, we deny humans the same right to a dignified death. Assisted suicide represents a humane option for those facing inevitable death, allowing them to exit life on their own terms with the same compassion...
A Right to Relief
CLAIM: Adults diagnosed with terminal illnesses or debilitating conditions like ALS have the right to seek relief from suffering in their final days. These individuals should be empowered to request assistance from medical professionals to facilitate a peaceful...
All This Technology
CLAIM: Technology has created these problems. I don’t want to be hooked up to tubes and wires. When it’s my time to go, let me go. REBUTTAL: In the early 1980s, U.S. Surgeon General Dr. C. Everett Koop commented on the news that parents in Bloomington, IN, refused to...
Laying the Groundwork
Dying Ends Life When we talk about dying, we must begin with the obvious because you do not wade far into this issue before the obvious is obscured by euphemisms and specious rhetoric. The result of dying is death. Death is the lack of life and is irreversible. Death...
Losing Rights Because of Pregnancy
CLAIM: I have heard people argue that the time to choose not to have a child is before it is conceived, not after, so that I could use birth control or avoid sexual activity altogether. If I have those rights before getting pregnant, why do I lose the rights over my...
Using Body Without Consent
CLAIM: The issue is that a fetus cannot survive without using someone else's body. No one - not a baby, not an adult, not a cow or lizard or dog or dolphin - is allowed to use YOUR body to help their own body without your consent. No human gets to use someone else's...
Let People Think for Themselves
CLAIM: I’m against abortion, but if the pregnancy is going to kill the mother and the baby, then the mother should be able to decide. The Bible says life begins with the first breath. I still would not have an abortion, but I’m not making that decision for her. That’s...
Forcing My Opinion on Others
CLAIM: "I’m pro-life but that does not give me the right to force my opinion or my beliefs on another individual. It also doesn’t give any government the right to impose laws that will govern my body or anyone else’s." REBUTTAL: You make two arguments. Look at your...
Not My Business
CLAIM: In my opinion, as a male, which is always secondary to the woman, the bottom line is the decision always needs to be made by the woman not any government law. This decision of life and death is very personal and involves many considerations: each persons...
Giving Women a Choice on Abortion
CLAIM: WHEN RESPONDING TO WOMEN WHO WERE ABUSED AND FORCED TO GET ABORTIONS TO COVER IT UP: Isn’t that the point of pro-choice? Women can choose if they want an abortion or not. You’re saying, isn’t it awful these women didn’t have a choice? Well, that applies to both...
IVF Blessings Do Not Outweigh Drawbacks
CLAIM: A truly pro-life stance would recognize that the lives created through IVF outweigh its potential drawbacks. REBUTTAL: The term “pro-life” is always intended and generally understood to define the desire to protect any human life that would be in danger....
Is It Okay if a Woman Dies?
CLAIM: Women are dying because they’re being refused the medical care they need. So, it’s okay if a woman dies? REBUTTAL: It is never OK for a life to be lost. It should trouble us all. It is difficult to imagine why medical staff would refuse care for someone who...
Abortion as a Necessary Evil
CLAIM: I'm a pro-life Democrat, but isn't early-term abortion a necessary evil until someone has an answer for what we're going to do with an extra one million plus unwanted children, considering most of those in our terrible foster system don't get adopted already?...
Rebellion
Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man!” (2 Samuel 12:7) King David’s sin with Bathsheba was lurid in its details but simple in what it was – rebellion! When people of faith know the truth and defy it, it is rebellion. Whether we are talking about legalizing...
Conscience of the State
Remind the people to be subject to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready to do whatever is good, to slander no one, to be peaceable and considerate, and always to be gentle toward everyone. (Titus 3:1–2) Ever since the Dobbs ruling, the Democratic party...
Abortion on the Ballot
Recent headlines highlight that abortion will be a significant issue in upcoming ballots. Traditionally, Democrats support abortion rights, while Republicans oppose them. Consequently, news stories often discuss how abortion referendums are being used as tools to...
The Choices We Make
“I have a right to do what I want with my body, and nobody is going to tell me otherwise.” Whether the issue is abortion, birth control, IVF, or euthanasia, we value our choices as election cycles illustrate ad nauseum. Scripture teaches us to value choices: But if...
More Abortion Referendums
So far, every state referendum proposed to either support access to abortion or restrict access went the wrong way for the pro-life community. It has happened five times since the Dobbs decision, and this November, nine more states have referendums on the issue. In...
Truth Endures
Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:31–32) In April, Anthropic announced that its artificial intelligence product, Claude3Opus [Opus], can engage in debate. I...
Cherishing Life
I need to be regularly reminded that, as a Christian, the world and I are looking at things from two completely different directions (John 15:19). When I read the story of a nine-year-old child with Down syndrome bringing joy, all I could think of is the world’s...
Liberal or Progressive?
The line between conservatives and liberals in the United States is often drawn along social issues. Generally, conservatives are pro-life and pro-traditional marriage and accordingly believe in moral absolutes, typically rooted in the Bible. Liberals, on the other...
Abortion Politics
There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death. (Proverbs 16:25) How can professed Christians support candidates who support abortion rights? It is one of our most polarizing issues. Human Life in the Image of God Human life is venerated...
Put Away the Sword
“Put your sword back in its place,” Jesus said to him, “for all who draw the sword will die by the sword. Do you think I cannot call on my Father, and he will at once put at my disposal more than twelve legions of angels? But how then would the Scriptures be fulfilled...
Be Strong!
For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. (2 Timothy 1:7) Paul’s letter to Timothy calls all of us to courage. Humanly speaking, Timothy had cause to be timid: He was sensitive to being young. Paul told Timothy...
More than Earthly Purposes
As he went along, he saw a man blind from birth. His disciples asked him, “Rabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?” “Neither this man nor his parents sinned,” said Jesus, “but this happened so that the works of God might be displayed in...
Issues and Distractions
The recent presidential debate raised two important questions: Does President Biden have the mental acuity to rule competently for a second term, and does former President Trump’s propensity to exaggerate and lie make him a good politician or unqualified for office?...
Wrong Message
The headline read, “Louisiana Requires Classrooms to Display the Commandments.” As we witness a national implosion of morality, this is not the solution. God declared: “These people come near to me with their mouth and honor me with their lips, but their hearts are...
Some Lives Are Expendable
On February 16, 2024, the Alabama State Supreme Court ruled that cryopreserved embryos created using IVF were children – not potential children, not property, not blobs of tissue, and not detached parasitical material of the woman’s body. [In case you are not familiar...
How You Define It
The New York Times email succinctly encapsulated a prevalent discourse: “Far-right activists have spread misinformation conflating birth control with abortion. But the vast majority of Americans support birth control access.” [6-5-24] Is birth control tantamount to an...
Where to Live?
Texas doubled down on protecting unborn life, and Delaware is doubling down on making abortions easier. Where would you live? The answer is harder than you think. Both sides of the abortion debate agree that a child’s life is lost. The abortion-rights argument creates...
One More Slip
“A little yeast works through the whole batch of dough.” (Galatians 5:9) It is often called the “slippery slope.” It is described this way: “If the camel once gets his nose in the tent, his body will soon follow.” The smallest step away from the will of God eventually...
Speaking Up When It Hurts
“If the world hates you, keep in mind that it hated me first.” (John 15:18) On May 11, 2024, Harrison Butker, placekicker for the Super Bowl Champion Kansas City Chiefs, was the commencement speaker at Benedictine College in Atchison, KS. Benedictine College refers to...
Vigilance!
Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. (James 1:14–15) I have used these commentaries each week to advocate...
The Truth Must Prevail
When I came to you, I did not come with eloquence or human wisdom as I proclaimed to you the testimony about God…My message and my preaching were not with wise and persuasive words, but with a demonstration of the Spirit’s power, so that your faith might not rest on...
Population and God
As our culture drifts further from objective truths, it wanders into calamity. Such is the population picture that is unfolding. The terminology can vary. It is sometimes called the “birth rate” or “fertility rate.” Technically it is called the “total fertility rate”...
Time Well Spent
8 Then Haman said to King Xerxes, “There is a certain people dispersed among the peoples in all the provinces of your kingdom who keep themselves separate. Their customs are different from those of all other people, and they do not obey the king’s laws; it is not in...
Conditioned by the Truth
But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness. (Hebrews 3:13) [NIV] I went to see the 1997 blockbuster film Titanic three times. I was blown away by the special effects and the emotional...
Clever Innocence
My co-podcaster on Life Challenges, Pastor Jeff Samelson, once said in an episode, “We all want to stand for something, but we don’t want to suffer for it.” How true! Jesus sent his disciples to do ministry with this advice, “I am sending you out like sheep among...
Escaping the Cold
Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up his clothes by casting lots. (Luke 23:34) In 1948, General Omar Bradley observed in an Armistice Day address: We have grasped the mystery of the atom and rejected the...
The Easter Truth
And if Christ has not been raised, your faith is futile; you are still in your sins. Then those also who have fallen asleep in Christ are lost. If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are of all people most to be pitied. But Christ has indeed been raised from...
Facing the Facts
These are the things you are to do: Speak the truth to each other, and render true and sound judgment in your courts; (Zechariah 8:16) Truth, in these progressive times, is taking a beating. Aldous Huxley, author of the famous dystopian novel, “Brave New World” once...
Realization, Regret, and Forgiveness
The Lord turned and looked straight at Peter. Then Peter remembered the word the Lord had spoken to him: “Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times.” And he went outside and wept bitterly. (Luke 22:61–62) When peer counselors in our pregnancy care...
Drugs, Death, and Drama
With access to surgical abortion now restricted in many states, the shift has been to chemical abortions. According to the latest statistics, 53% of all abortions are now chemical abortions. Danco Laboratories, a private Manhattan pharmaceutical supplier, distributes...
Public Wailing about IVF
The Alabama ruling declaring that IVF embryos are people and not property has created the expected public wailing. The lament casts the justices as cruel for having swiped from people the chance to have children. One headline used these provocative words: “Alabama...
Calling Out the Emperor
Hans Christian Anderson’s fable of the Emperor’s New Clothes concludes with a child stating the obvious – “he is naked.” That is what the Alabama State Supreme Court did on Friday, February 16, 2024, when it ruled that frozen embryos obtained by means of IVF are...
The Slippery Slopes in Life
Last week, I discussed sliding from temptation into sin. Let’s now illustrate that practically by looking at the slippery slopes in life. The late U.S. Surgeon General C. Everett Koop observed, “It is a small leap in logic to go from taking life in the womb to taking...
Some Things Never Change
Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. (James 1:14–15) Sinning is a process. It begins with temptation. Once...
Better Hearts Lead to Better Laws
“But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy, not sacrifice.’” (Matthew 9:13) A representative form of government allows individuals to marshal collective strength to effect change. Adding my vote to many others brings in new leaders, adopts referendums, and, on...
The Mother of All the Living
Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become the mother of all the living. (Genesis 3:20) Sometimes, we miss it! In the heat of a debate, the point gets lost. I thought about that earlier this week when Vice President Harris came to Wisconsin to press for...
Choosing Death: Rethinking End-of-Life Choices
Richard and Helen Brown built a career nurturing young lives with their School of Broadcasting. Their legacy, however, was tarnished by their 1994 suicide, fueled by a desire to spare themselves future suffering and create a legacy within their United Church of Christ...
Look What We Can Do!
In 1984, U.S. Surgeon General C. Everett Koop spoke at a Christian Life Resources national convention. He talked about rapid technology changes and the ethical challenges they bring. He gave this scenario: A mother births twins prematurely. Both require advanced...
Heartbeat or Cardiac Activity? Yes!
There has been a language shift among abortion advocates. What they used to call a “heartbeat” is now being called “cardiac activity.” The shift in language serves two purposes: “Heartbeat” is historically understood as the evidence of life. When there is no...
Bridge Opens in Time for Christmas
When we are called “social conservatives,” it means we are known for what we are against. We oppose abortion, euthanasia, promiscuity, same-sex marriage, and the list can go on. Those who walk outside of the guidance of Scripture characterize Christianity as a group...
Texas: Clearing Away the Clutter
A person may think their own ways are right, but the LORD weighs the heart. (Proverbs 21:2) You would think Texas hates pregnant women facing health or life endangerment. CNN reported: …a Texas woman has been battling the state to terminate her high-risk pregnancy…her...
When Freedom Is Not Freedom
They promise them freedom, while they themselves are slaves of depravity—for “people are slaves to whatever has mastered them.” (2 Peter 2:19) In 1973 the American Humanist Association released the second iteration of its Manifesto. In it, was a call for freedom: We...
The Gender Issues
Gender issues have come front and center over the past couple of years with a force bordering on bullying. Some perspective is in order. Made This Way The “made this way” argument is conflated. On the one hand, the argument is that we are made binary – either male or...
Incompatible or Wrong?
The American Medical Association (AMA) recently affirmed its opposition to physician-assisted suicide. A portion of the statement states, Physician-assisted suicide is fundamentally incompatible with the physician’s role as healer, would be difficult or impossible to...
Abortion and Drawing the Line
One of the hardest truths to face in the abortion debate is the deception. Advocates of legalized abortion keep beating the “choice” or the “rights” drum. If you think about it, that is not the issue. After all, everyone likes to have the freedom to make choices....
Asexual Reproduction
Adam made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the LORD I have brought forth a man.” (Genesis 4:1) There are fundamental Bible truths about procreation: God is the predominant player. He is the one who is...
Abortions Are Up – How Can That Be?
For 35 years, I have traveled throughout North America, giving presentations and Bible Classes. Invariably, attendees try to pin me down on politicians and political issues, especially during election cycles. I always respond the same way, “None of the political...
Finding Value in Life
Curtis Means is the earliest delivered surviving baby. He was born 19 weeks into the pregnancy on July 5, 2020. His twin did not survive. Conversely, about 1% of all abortions occur at 20 or more weeks gestation. There were approximately 930,000 abortions in 2020....
Unexpected Suffering
“I have been very zealous for the LORD God Almighty. The Israelites have rejected your covenant, torn down your altars, and put your prophets to death with the sword. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me too.” (1 Kings 19:14) Regardless of your...
Finding Purpose
I have been reading a book written by a gifted writer diagnosed with terminal cancer. He has faced his diagnosis with courage and insight. The problem, however, is his understanding of purpose. Not once throughout the book does he reference God, Jesus, sin, or...
Words and Meanings
Sometimes, we use words to communicate what we want others to know quickly and clearly. “Danger” is a clearly understood word. When shouted in a crowded room, it gets attention, and people run to safety. Sometimes, we use words to share larger realities and concepts....
Understand the Difference
When I became active in pro-life issues in the fall of 1976, I could not figure out what was so difficult about seeing that in abortion a child dies. I saw pictures of unborn children at rallies, fair booths, and in pro-life offices. What do we see that they do not...
Should We Do More?
In June 2023, the Center for a Biblical Worldview, a research arm of the Family Research Council, surveyed 1,009 adults who attend a worship service in-person or online at least once/month. The statistic that popped out for me was that 58% of those adults wanted their...
The Medical Profession and Abortion
On August 30, 2023, the Interim Chief Executive of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology (ACOG) and the Interim Director of Advocacy and Public Affairs for the Society of Family Planning concluded a brief op-ed piece in the Washington Post with these...
No Heaven on Earth
There was a time when the mantra for abortion rights sounded like this: “Safe, legal, and rare.” My, how the times have changed. The new director of the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Dr. Mandy Cohen, said, “…we will support however we can the...
Elusive Contentment
The Apostle Paul wrote: I rejoiced greatly in the Lord that at last you renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the...
Choices and Consequences
Having the freedom to make choices without interference feels like good public policy. It mitigates the ideological differences among the citizenries. Consider how it plays out: Advocates for drug legalization argue that individuals should make their own choices about...
Euthanasia and You
Canada continues to be an example of euthanasia out of control. Christians find themselves challenged and confused over what to do. I want to make four points: 1) Authorship. A Christian believes God is the author of life (Genesis 1:27; Colossian 3:10; Deuteronomy...
